DEFY THE NORM
Posted in Relationships on 01/09/2009 11:19 am by Tope
Sequel to my last article, today, i’ll be talking to the ladies. So, it’s 1-1, no cheating! 
We already established that females perceive things and act most times based on their emotions.
Emotions are strong. Have you noticed that females have a greater tendency many times to throw temper tantrums, make rash decisions based on how they feel, say anything that comes to their minds or even keep a grudge when they’re angry? They’re a lot more sensitive and expressive of how they feel.
I’ve met a few people who have female bosses, and men! it’s not usually funny when they’re in a foul mood; they can be downright nasty! It’s because it’s tough for them to be rational when upset. They really don’t want to be nasty, they just don’t want to be taken advantage of and are probably not stable enough to handle a lot of pressure (of course many of them have marital/family and other personal issues, so it adds to it).
I’ve never really been a vocal person, especially when am upset; but i’m very strict on myself in ensuring that my actions are based on facts as much as possible as against how i feel. I’ve seen what harm it can cause and how it can cloud one’s sense of judgement to act purely based on emotions. I’ve had reasons to analyze/thrash issues with my husband and he regularly states his own perspective point after point, and when it’s my turn, feelings account for all i have to say. Along the line, i had to pick up. Which reminds me of very recently when he asked me why i did what i did, and by the time i was on the 3rd fact/basis for my action, he had to express his surprise at the way i had “become more matured/balanced” in perceiving issues. Ladies, i’m not saying don’t submit o, i’m just saying, don’t belittle yourself by allowing emotions to rule you. Be rational. Guys like it when their perspective can be challenged with the right attitude.
Women are powerful, and very strong too. I have a goal, i want every female close to me to be strong internally and stable. I like the quote that i got from a friend recently which says “Based on creation story, men were made from dust and so are dust, while women are bone because they were made from a rib bone”. We’re strong, and have unlimited potentials; let’s not ruin things with emotions, let’s be balanced (emotionally-logical), let’s defy the norm and get a grip, YES WE CAN!
01/09/2009 at 11:48 am
i choose my female friends based on words per second… the lower the better. it is better to stay on the roof top…
it will be good if we had ladies/women who can defy the norm but can they? (it is not wired into their system, they were not configured to be like that)
01/09/2009 at 12:02 pm
Acting and reacting based on facts rather than emotions is an act of maturity. For me it does not really matter whether you are a woman or man. Just learn to act matured.
01/09/2009 at 12:14 pm
Good stuff
01/09/2009 at 1:09 pm
Well i have a seen quite a number of women in authority who hold their own. Ultimately we are responsible for our actions or reactions. Gender cannot be totally blamed for how we behave just like we cant blame it on temprament.
Tope Akinyemi has higlighted the fact that we can control our temper. Hmmmm
Oluyemi Adeosun
http://www.yemiadeosun.blogspot.com
01/09/2009 at 8:08 pm
Good stuff…Emotions is simplified as HE-motions or SHE-motions..You will feel it but the motion you give to it matters. We can’t deny emotions because they are strong but we can determine the motions we give to it…
Women are strong and with little bravery makes them outstanding because its above expectation…
01/10/2009 at 4:31 pm
Ride on sis! u just hit the nail on the head! lol
01/12/2009 at 5:12 am
True talk!
Thanks………….very encouraging
Will look out for times I let my emotion take over
I like the ‘defy the norm’ line
01/12/2009 at 7:20 am
oh yeah, you can say it again! it takes discpline but sure we can and will certainly be better women for it, especially if we learn to embrace the fruits of the spirit in our daily walk.
01/13/2009 at 5:01 am
really true…i totally agree with you, ma. the fact that God created us different should also not be an excuse for some women to blame any little “misbehavior” on their femininty. So “she cries because she’s a woman, stomps about in anger because she’s a woman, lashes out to her husband at 100words/min because she’s a woman,”? i think that women are a lot stronger than men and have capacity, like you said, to be and do a lot of things. we are naturally made “multi-taskers”. lets show them how to be strong and not constantly concur to being the “weaker sex”
Great piece too.
01/13/2009 at 8:02 am
Certainly emotions (including acting on them) can’t be this bad! or why are HRM specialists laying more and more emphasis on the importance of emotional intelligence in the work place or who ever had compassion without emotion?
So i think the issue should be discerning when or under what conditions emotions can form the basis for action.
(Hope there’s a philosopher out there who will address this
01/14/2009 at 2:01 am
Nice one! and True….
In the context of your article, i’m still on the road to maturity….